Congratulation to Patricia Gumbs, winner of the Science of Black Hair Giveaway.
Five years ago, I did my third big chop. Seventeen days immersed in the experience, I realized that my third TWA or Teeny Weeny Afro had managed to teach me on a couple of things about myself and those around me. Having reduced my hair length to 4 inches, I felt content, but I hadn't realized that I had rustle a few feathers having done so. Here's what I've learned.
Stop recruiting people. Just because I am confident and happy with my decision to cut my hair does not mean that they would be. Big chops are not for everyone. It takes more than a cute hairstyle to make women cut off their hair, especially those who are transitioning. Plus, you don't want them coming after you when the reality of that change sets in. I am grateful I have not converted or persuaded anyone because I realized that every time I had cut my hair in the past, there were long hours and days of contemplation involved and a determination to change what was no longer working for me.
Expect the "Why" question. I wanted my hair short and having stepped back into my life quite comfortably, I completely forgot that I hadn't warned people of the change and, yes, they responded. Some with eyes bulging, reminding me of my transgression, for they have long counted on my appearance to include a wad of hair; others stare themselves into oblivion trying to figure out my new style, how I got my hair to shrink that much and asking me about it days later when the length did not return. I had fun with the answers and threw out different reasons, all true of course.
Change your hairstyles. After a thoroughly enjoyed wash and deep conditioning experience, I fell right into a pit of frustration, trying to style my hair. It was too short to go in one and worst yet I could not wrap and tuck it with hair pins, my go to protective style. The funny thing was although my hair length had changed, the volume of my head did not and two strand twists took just as long to complete as before. Also my ends no longer tapered, but remained thick, tempting me to keep holding on to them for fear of them unraveling on their own. My hands moved about mechanically reaching for and grasping the shadow of my former hair length.
Keep your principles. So there is a new feel on my head where hair is concerned and on numerous occasions, just because it doesn't touch my shoulders and back any more, I've fallen asleep without covering my head from the greedy moisture vacuum in my cotton pillow cases. I've gone a whole day without tending to my twist out that dried out noticeably faster than before. It was almost like I had gotten rid of my old hair retention habits and broke loose. I had to stop it. Just because your hair changed and your protective methods no longer work, go back into research mode and relearn how to maintain your hair.
Which of these TWA lessons can you relate to? Have you ever done a big chop? COMMENT BELOW
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